Emily Kaye Lazzaro

Amusing anecdotes almost entirely about myself.

23 Weeks

IMG_6711Don’t fuck with me, fuckers.


Person (co-worker, stranger, etc): When are you due?

Me: December.



IF YOU ARE THE PERSON IN THIS CONVERSATION, EVER, THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE SAYING. You are saying that the pregnant woman with whom  you are speaking is terrifyingly huge and you can’t even imagine that they could possibly get huger. You can’t believe she is only 5 months pregnant. She looks 9 months pregnant. She looks as big as any woman should ever look. You are shocked.

Perhaps you feel bad for her, that she still has so far to go. Perhaps your shock comes from a place of pure empathy. Fine, whatever. That’s me giving you the biggest possible benefit of the doubt.

What is most likely happening is that you have unconsciously looked at women’s bodies as objects of male consumption for your entire life and seeing a woman whose body is undergoing a physical change that does not have to do with making herself sexually appealing is confusing and upsetting to your world view. This applies to women and men. Perhaps you are concerned for her health, which, frankly, I’m pretty sure is just a distortion of the male gaze. Either way, whatever place this comment comes from, you need to shut the fuck up.

Here’s the only way this conversation should ever go:

Person: When are you due?

Me: December.

Person: Wonderful! What a great Christmas present that will be! You look so healthy and glowy. Here, let me carry that for you.



Person: When are you due?

Me: I’m due in fuck your mother.


Either of these are acceptable. I regret that the question of when I am due puts me so much on edge, but it is because I gain a lot of weight when I’m pregnant and I know what people are thinking when they ask me this question. Because I’ve gotten it a lot of times. Me and Kim Kardashian have a lot in common, but the main thing is that we gain a lot of weight when we are pregnant. And then we lose the weight, and it’s fucking fine. And also even if I didn’t lose the weight I would be fucking fine and would need no input from you, people of the world.

I have spent way too much time thinking about my body. In truth, I don’t worry as much about it anymore, and it’s very freeing. But me not worrying about it in my own head does not stop other people from thinking about my body and its value or lack thereof. And this pisses me off, hard.

I’m reading Caitlin Moran’s new book and also listening to Amy Schumer’s new book on Audible while I drive places, to really scar my toddler who sits in the backseat and is going to start saying the word “clitoris” any day now. Point being, I’m consuming content by two really great and valuable humorous feminist writers and I’m getting worked up anyway in my life, so this is not the time to step to me with your “oh my god”s and your “you’re kidding”s and your “so much more to go!”s. Don’t talk about my body. Just don’t. Not when I’m pregnant and not after.

I don’t even want you to tell me I look skinny. I don’t want you to express concern for my body in any way. That’s not your job, you are not my doctor.


I’m just getting tired. When I’m in shape people say “positive” things to me outside in public and I don’t like it. When I’m pregnant or heavier for another reason, I become invisible, which is actually, frankly, kind of nice, but can be jarring. And I’m just tired of all of it. I’m not even talking about real things here, not real real things, not rape or wage inequality or hiring discrimination or societal support for mothers or the lack of research on women’s health issues.

I’m also tired because I’m pregnant and growing a baby is a lot of physical work. I don’t have time to look good for you.

Anyway. Okay. I feel better now that we got this squared away. How are you guys doing? Yesterday Evan and I went swimming at Walden Pond and he sat in my arms in the water and requested that I sing Baby Beluga, which I did, which was definitely one of the top 5 moments of my entire life. So, you know, things are generally pretty good.

21 Weeks


When I had my first miscarriage, I think I was only like 6 weeks pregnant and it never had a heartbeat. We were in the middle of a kitchen renovation and my cat had just died and then my grandfather died and it felt like a lot to happen in the span of about a month. But things seem to happen when they happen and there’s no logic to any of it.

When I had my second miscarriage, I wouldn’t stop bleeding and cramping for weeks and I had to get the rest of the tissue removed with a simple surgery, which I woke up from in incredible, unexplained pain. They had me on an IV of Pitocin and they couldn’t explain that to me as I lay screaming. That was my last encounter with that particular hospital.

When I had my third miscarriage, we had seen a heartbeat and thought that meant we were okay. But then I started bleeding and after a lot of pain a dead fetus came out of me and I flushed it down the toilet, horrified, an action I still regret. I had been to a fertility doctor to have tests before the third miscarriage and I went back to her again and sat there, unable to speak or process anything, not caring about what she had to say to me, knowing nobody had any answers for any of it, and there was nothing wrong with me.

Then I got pregnant and everything went basically without a hitch and Evan is here and he’s great. No reason for that, either. It just worked out and nobody knows why, because the insides of our bodies are absolute mysteries. And then, when I was ready to have another one, we tried again, I got pregnant right away, and everything seems to be going without a hitch again.

When I got genetic testing for this pregnancy, I told the genetic counselor that I had had three previous miscarriages, and she corrected me that I had only had one, since there was only ever one fetus. This made me feel like shit, but I know it was just medical terminology.

One miscarriage is still too many.

It happens a lot.

I know a lot of people who are struggling to have babies right now and taking pictures of my profile in my work bathroom mirror feels idiotic.

I’m going through a stretch of incredible good luck. I think it’s important to sit in this moment in time and appreciate that. Because someday something horrible will happen and I might think “my life was so good and easy for a time and I didn’t appreciate it.” I’d rather appreciate it.

I shall leave you with two quotes from Kurt Vonnegut, a very good writer.

  1. “She was a fool, and so am I, and so is anyone who thinks he sees what God is doing.” In my case, I would replace “God” with “the randomness of the universe,” but the spirit of the quote remains the same. Having miscarriages made me not believe in God anymore, that’s an interesting, possibly depressing outcome. But I think that made me a better, more clear-eyed, happier person in the end.
  2. “I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.'”

20 Weeks

IMG_6596I took this picture in the bathroom at work.

We moved! Which is great because we don’t have to live below a mean troll neighbor anymore, and because our house is a super great house in a really great neighborhood, so hooray! I’m feeling good and there are so many things to be thankful for. Evan is doing great! Evan loves the new house! What a lucky family we are!

No, but seriously, things are kind of terrible. Like, I feel fine, basically, except going up any flight of stairs in any capacity is taxing, and all the basic stuff, like if I lean over to take a sip of water from bed and then lie back down, I burp vomit taste. How’s that for descriptive? When people say things like “heartburn” or “indigestion” they don’t usually describe it like that, do they? Well that’s what they’re talking about, now you understand, you’re welcome.

We moved on Tuesday, but we didn’t really move. Like all our stuff got packed up and moved into our new garage by three sad-seeming Russians, and it took them 14.5 hours, and we have access to almost nothing. Our house is still very much under construction and covered in incredible amounts of construction dust, which is gross and more sticky than any other kind of dirt or dust in the world. We are all sleeping in one room with an AC unit in the window and lots of pillows on the floor. We have a mattress in there that is always very sandy, somehow. Evan keeps waking up at 5:30am because he can see us and he wants to play.

IMG_6594This is where we currently sleep. Photo taken from mattress on floor.

It’s like camping, kind of. You know how you’re always a little dirtier than you want to be when you’re camping? Yeah. And we couldn’t shower until this morning.

But the bathroom is coming together! And the cosmetic changes we made to the kitchen are nearly done. This is what it looked like when we bought it:

old kitchen

And this is what it looks like now:IMG_6595It looks very gray in this picture, and it is largely gray, but it feels very light and pleasant in person. Also everything in our house is vaguely gray right now because of the aforementioned construction dust. We put in new marble counters, painted the cabinets, and put in a tile back splash. We still need drawer pulls (thinking about some copper ones that basically look like rose gold) and paint for the trim and walls, and outlet covers, obviously, but it’s getting there!

Now all that’s left is finishing the bathroom, replacing the drywall and plaster in the entryway and hall and up the stairs because the wallpaper was load-bearing, painting everything, finishing all HVAC work, and refinishing the floors. And then we can put our furniture inside. And then we can do epic amounts of yard work and repairs on the exterior and paint the outside of the house and replace the shutters. That’s all! Hahahahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaa. We should be fully done by 2020.

No, but it’s great. The animals like it here, we know that much.IMG_6580

You can’t tell from this picture but both animals are little balls of plaster dust from exploring in all the construction supplies and tools. It’s okay, we are all together and everybody is mostly safe and in a few months we will only be worried about exterior stuff and soon we will be able to eat real food in our kitchen and go to bed in our real beds and then watch TV on a real TV while sitting on a couch. And we will be able to walk around without shoes on and this will all be a distant memory.

And one fun thing is we are eating a lot of restaurant food and ice cream. It’s possible I’m on the same train I was on last pregnancy, weight gain wise, but there’s only so much a person can deal with at a time. So who fucking cares? Not I. I’ll just do another half marathon after I have the baby and all will be well.

But also, I keep forgetting this, but I am HALFWAY THROUGH this pregnancy! 20 weeks is a fun point to get to, because it’s all downhill from here, in more ways than one. Some things get way worse from here, but also, we are halfway there! The end is in sight. I keep dreaming about winter. Glorious winter! We will wear pants and sweaters and cozy socks and I will have a snuggly baby and it will not be hot and I will drink such wines! And we have a fireplace now so we can have fires! And eat popcorn and watch Home Alone 2 and A Muppet Christmas Carol in our pajamas next to our Christmas tree, ahhhhhh IT’S GOING TO BE AMAZING.


Free Range

stranger things

I’ve been watching Stranger Things on Netflix this week. Do yourself a favor and watch it, it’s a goddamn delight. It made me think a lot about being a kid and sort of freely roaming around, getting into trouble and having adventures. The show isn’t really about that, it’s a sci-fi show about a mysterious energy monster in an alternate dimension created by the government or something, but that’s not my point. I haven’t quite finished the series, obviously.

We had brunch with friends on Saturday and when Billy took Evan to walk around so he would stop putting schmaltz and chopped liver in my hair (Jewish deli brunch, amazing) I chatted with our friends about being free-range kids. I was not a free-range kid, but they were. I grew up in a town with lots of Activities that were very age appropriate and safe, and nobody ever walked anywhere. I spent a lot of time begging my parents to drive me places. Mike and Emily grew up as country kids, wandering miles into the woods in the morning and not coming home until dinner time. It made me start thinking about parts of my childhood I might have previously forgotten, free-range moments.

The closest approximation to this sort of experience, for me, was the summer of 1994, which my brother and I spent living with my dad and step mother and baby sister. Dad signed us up for a “sports camp” at his swim/tennis club in town, which no other kids signed up for, and they effectively cancelled it, but somehow it was decided, by forces beyond my control, that we would still show up to the club every day, as though we were going to camp, and instead we would swim and goof off and play games of our own invention and drink 1000 Lipton Brisk Iced Teas from the snack bar, charging them to our dad’s account. We spent that whole summer outside, pretty much, cultivating our future skin cancer. We were also signed up for swimming lessons and for the swim team. The swim team did, thankfully, have other kids on it, and gave our days some structure. I learned to dive that summer, and to do various swimming strokes, though I never did quite get the hang of the butterfly.

The parts of that summer that stand out to me most are wandering, alone, with my little brother, through the grounds of the club, swimming in the pool by ourselves, looking at the swampy lake, drinking endless cans of over-sweet iced teas. We were left to our own devices and it was strange and unnerving sometimes, because we weren’t used to it, but it was also a good exercise. Boredom is kind of nice, in its way. It forces you to be creative. And, of course, we were always safe. There was no actual trouble we could get into. That kind of thing appeals to me as a parent. The illusion of freedom.

The point of this is that I hope to be able to give Evan and New Baby the opportunity to be a little free-range. Not, like, in an extreme way. Everything parenting-related in moderation. Our new house is on a dead-end street, which helps. It also helps that we live in a sort-of city. There are buses and trains to take to Boston. And we are close to the real woods, a reservation with hiking and water and, actually, it’s pretty dangerous. Maybe they don’t go wandering in the woods. I don’t know, I don’t want them to get taken by a faceless energy monster. I mostly want them to be able to ride their bikes alone.

The more I think about this, the more anxious I get. Why is it that a Stephen King-esque story with actual monsters in it makes me want to send my children out into the world without my protection? I think I’m missing something here.

In conclusion, parenting is hard.

19 Weeks


I hate these pictures and think they make me look doofy but I think a visual is helpful and informative so I’m going to keep doing it.

Anyway. I don’t know. I’m fine. Whatever. I don’t know. My head is pounding today. Every time I stand up I feel like my brain is going to explode. The sinus thing really kicks my ass in pregnancy. There are all these symptoms you can have, and I don’t have all of them, and that’s good, but yikes the ones I do have are unpleasant. And what the fuck do sinuses have to do with being pregnant? At least I’m not constipated I guess. It’s Friday, and I’m sharing a lot.

Listen, it’s fine. Everything is great. Pregnancy is so temporary. The baby is the size of a “large mango.” Cool.

It’s a girl, by the way. Full set! Super pumped. I also would have been totally happy with two boys because Evan is a perfect thing and why wouldn’t I want another one exactly like him, but this will be a big adventure and I’m nothing if not always looking to complicate the shit out of my life.

Baby Girl is kicking me very much and it is still early enough that it is mega cute and not painful or rib-reaching or anything, and I’m really happy about that. Just kickin’ around in there, living her little tadpole life.

A girl! I really like being a woman and most things associated with it (except for pregnancy and the ABSOLUTE UNFAIRNESS of breastfeeding, but that’s nature and nature is not fair). In my case the things I love about being a woman are super cis, hetero-normative things like hair and dresses and painting nails and walking slowly through the mall touching things while having long conversations about people’s inner lives. I hope she gets to have that too. And frankly, I hope Evan also knows the joys of walking through a J.Crew at 11am on a Saturday and talking about compassion and The Future and how to be a good person and do you think I can pull off espadrilles with the straps that go up your ankle. Because those are good times. And then going and getting a pretzel.

Billy and I have a small fear that new baby will be the absolute opposite of Evan. That she’ll be a very picky eater who doesn’t sleep at night and screams at a very high pitch. But also maybe she will be a super good napper and a normal breastfeeder (as opposed to an every hour on the hour breastfeeder like some of us) and maybe she won’t eat us out of house and home, who knows? Guessing about this stuff is sort of fun but also sort of stressful when you are a control monster.

Speaking of being a control monster, our new house is still majorly under construction and the other day I freaked out and started looking at places to stay for 10 days after we move and haha that would cost us around $2,000. Or more! We are moving on Tuesday and our house won’t really be done until August 14th, when we return from a week-long family vacation. But we don’t leave for the vacation until August 5th, so we have from July 26th through August 5th to basically camp out in our construction zone of a house. We can’t move our furniture in because we are refinishing the floors while we are on vacation. God, all of this is so mind-numbingly boring. I have a lot of respect for contractors for having to keep all this stuff in their heads. The toilet and sink can’t go in until the walls are painted. The walls can’t be painted until the tiles are in. The tiles can’t go in until they are delivered to the warehouse and somebody drives to godforsaken Waltham to pick them up and bring them to the house. And this is only the bathroom! We also have HVAC installation happening and holes in the floors and soffits to build. And every single wall to paint. HAHAHAHAhahahahacries.

But I’m trying to think of it as a fun adventure. We aren’t staying in a hotel, we are staying at our house that we own, and we are going to fill the living room with pillows and blankets and toys and we are going to play in the backyard a lot and it’s all going to be fine. We will read books and order takeout and have lots of picnics and it’s going to be great. Having a panic attack about it before it even happens is good and healthy for no one.

Also, can I just talk to you about little baby girls in sleeveless dresses? Their chubby little armsssssss. Hold on, google image searching that shit…

Thank you, internet:

blorp arms

Blorp. Let’s get one of those.

18 Weeks


Aren’t these pants fun? Such a mom thing to say.

So technically I am 18 weeks tomorrow, but I have to work tomorrow and then I have an appointment for an ultrasound to look at the genitals of the creature living inside me, so I figured I’d write this today.

I’m currently sitting in our new house, on the floor in the living room, watching about a bajillion dudes moving heavy things and drilling stuff and cutting wood and priming things. Thank you for doing these things for me in exchange for dollars, dudes! This is much better than every previous time Billy and I have moved to a new home and we had to do all this shit ourselves and I usually ended up crying in an empty bathtub. No crying this time. Or, I’m not crying right now, I can say that much!

I did have a small moment on Sunday night in which I cried to the point of hyperventilating because I’m scared of having two children. But that was Sunday and this is now. We are fine! Everything is going to be fine!

Billy and Evan are at Billy’s parents’ house today, Billy is working from there and Jeannine is playing with Evan and I am meeting with a color consultant (ugh who am I?) to help me pick paint colors, then I’m meeting the stone countertop person to give her a check. And in the meantime, I’m writing, supposedly.

Here’s something fun: Evan is in a bit of a complicated phase. He knows what “no” means but he is constantly testing his limits and seeing if my reaction is always the same when he kicks the dog. Yes, you always get a time out when you kick the dog, dude, don’t turn into Patrick Bateman, please please please. I know all toddlers are terrorist sociopaths, but it’s tough to deal with as an adult who hopes/expects people to treat her with a modicum of rationality and respect. Haha rationality and respect are not on the agenda right now.

It’s helpful to think of him as a tiny scientist constantly performing experiments. If I put my hand in the toilet water, she says no and removes me bodily from the room and makes me wash my hands. Interesting. What if I do it a second time? Same thing. Very interesting. And a third time? Yes, the same outcome, yet she appears to be acting differently. I wonder how many times I would have to do it before she puts me in the garbage can and runs away to Mexico? 

His little brain is just collecting data. It’s not personal, Emily.

So, you know, we are working on that.

I feel like I really have no time to think about being pregnant. I much prefer this to last time, when it was all I could ever think about and all I ever thought was “I fucking hate this.”

Tune in next time for the revelation of the aforementioned genitals!

17 Weeks


Oh who cares about this at all?

Alternately, it might be nice to have a small moment of escape from bad news. I will get there.

One thing, first. Evan’s daycare is in Dorchester. It’s one of the most affordable daycares I’ve been able to find in our area. He is one of, I think, 2 white boys in his toddler class. There is one white girl and the rest of the 12 toddlers are latino/a or black or multiracial. I hope that Evan grows up seeing a bunch of different kinds of people and that his generation in general will be better than ours.

This stuff has always happened but now we know about it, because of social media and cameras and mainstream media coverage. So now it can change.

I don’t know, everything is very bad. Let’s all try to raise our babies to be better than we were.

Now for a moment of escape. Yesterday, Evan and I went to our new house to look at the gutted bathroom and talk about kitchen counters and all kinds of bullshit like that. We also went to a bath showroom to consider a few vanity and medicine cabinet options. Not the best place for a toddler to spend his time, really. But the bath showroom had lots of bathtub displays, including one with a movable sensual massager shower head. Evan picked it up and put it to his ear and said “he-woh” because it looked like a phone. Not like an iPhone, the only real phone he has ever encountered, it being 2016, but like a landline. How does he even know about landlines? Though, he also picks up Legos of various sizes and says hello into them, and they don’t look like any kind of phone that has ever existed. He also touched all the handles of everything that was within his reach and said “cool.” He’s a fun guy to have around.

I keep forgetting I’m pregnant. Do people who are pregnant for a second time frequently forget they are pregnant and accidentally sleep on their backs and die? Is that a thing? Because it’s a concern of mine.

It’s not recommended that pregnant women eat deli meat, unpasteurized cheeses, sushi, etc, but I love deli meat so so so much and I’ve been eating it anyway. Billy asked me to stop because he gets worried and because my mom got listeria when she was pregnant with my brother and we think that’s why he has anxiety (hi Will!) and Billy said he would quit coffee if I quit deli meat. I told him to keep drinking coffee because we don’t need another thing, but I’m trying to steer clear of deli meat. And I’m being a fucking martyr about it. I wish I didn’t love deli meat so much. I’m allowed to eat it if I cook it enough that it steams (what?) so you might find me in the next few weeks just cooking sliced turkey in a pan like a crazy person, trying to see steam. Maybe it will even make it taste better? Oh fuck it, I’ll just eat hummus like a normal person. 5 more months of this nonsense. Then I’m done forever.

Related: anyone have any thoughts on vasectomies? Maybe it’s time somebody else’s tender bits get messed around with, is all I’m saying.


16 Weeks

IMG_6500This week has been a doozy, you guys.

On Sunday, Daisy stole a nicely brined pork chop off the kitchen counter. Billy rescued it and cut off the weird bits and we ate it anyway, and it tasted fine, but it was not the best thing that has ever happened. Then we had a bath tub situation. Evan was sitting in the tub, like a perfect angel, and then he looked me in the eye and said with the clarity of an adult human, “stinky poop.” I said “DO YOU HAVE TO POOP????” And he leaned one butt cheek gingerly up off the floor of the tub and pooped.

This is the kind of story Evan is going to be so glad I wrote about on the internet.

Anyway, Sunday, the day of stolen pork chops and tub poop, was the least ridiculous day of this week.

On Monday, a lady I barely know accosted me in the bathroom and asked me how far along I am. I haven’t officially announced that I’m pregnant everywhere in my life yet, but I guess I’m showing! I told her three months and change and she was SHOCKED. She was super shocked you guys. She said, “I thought you must be six months.” And that wasn’t the last thing she said! She talked to me about this subject for quite some time. On and on she went. She said I should check if it’s twins. I was good-naturedly self-deprecating through the whole conversation and subsequently hated myself for letting her off the hook. But she seems like one of those women who stands on the sidelines of little girls’ gymnastics classes, talking about who is looking especially chubby. She’s not worth it.

I took a special picture this week for her:


When I told Billy about it he said, quite succinctly, “I hope her butt falls off. She doesn’t deserve a butt.”

On Tuesday, Evan came down with something we thought was hand foot and mouth disease, which is a horrifying childhood illness that begins as a fever and ends with leprosy, basically. His fever topped out at 103 on Tuesday and we snuggled a lot and watched TV, which wasn’t that bad, but he was feeling poorly and that makes his mother sad inside. He stayed sick through Wednesday and by Thursday he was improving. The blisters never came and his doctor gave him the okay to go to daycare and all of a sudden he had all four canines, so I don’t know, it might have all been teething. Teething is a bitch, you guys. Let’s have another baby so we can do this a second time, she said. Having only one baby is too easy, she said.

Anyway, it’s fine, now it’s Friday, before a beautiful summer three day weekend and Evan is wearing a tank top at daycare so pretty much all is right with the world.

Hard to say, but I might have felt a little tap-tap last night. This might have been purely the power of suggestion, since I know some second-time pregnant women feel the baby move around week 16, and I might have just been paying super close attention to my digestive system, but whatever, who cares. I might have felt the baby move and I’ll take it.

15 Weeks


Yikes about stuff in the world, right? Social media is a burned-out hellscape so I might as well write something, you know what I mean? Let’s distract ourselves from the UK and Donald Trump and gun control by talking about me.

I don’t know, things are fine! I don’t feel sick anymore, which is fantastic. I feel really tired today because I didn’t get enough sleep last night. Haha this is the most boring post I have ever written. You’re kidding, Emily, you’re tired because you didn’t sleep enough?! PLEASE TELL ME MORE! GO INTO DETAIL!

The baby is the size of an avocado today. That feels big! I don’t know, I feel very hungry, but it’s fun to be hungry because then you eat and you feel better! Oh my god, will the epiphanies never cease?!

A cool thing about this pregnancy that is different from being pregnant with Evan is that I do not give A SINGLE FUCK about what I look like. Last weekend, I was at the playground with Evan and Billy and we were getting ready to leave and I got distracted by this insanely barking dog and I was like somebody get that dog away from the children and while I was thinking that very basic mom thought, I accidentally walked into a low balance beam at the playground and swiped my own legs out from under me. Now I have two disgusting bruises on my shins. Sidenote: shins are stupid. They are so tender and delicate and they are right in the middle of everything and so easily injured. Get it together, shins. Either be tougher or be in a more easily protected region of the body. I trust you to get on that, evolution. But yeah so I have these gnarly bruises, that stretch from my knees to my ankles, and are all manner of bruise colors: purple, yellow, brown, green, you name it! And I keep wearing shorts anyway. And skirts and dresses and just being like LOOK AT MY BRUISES, WORLD, I CARE NOT! You’re lucky I didn’t take a picture and post it here.

When I was pregnant with Evan, I was young enough and maybe childless enough to care about what I looked like. I was also still acting, up through the first trimester of that pregnancy, and there’s definitely some concern about physical looks associated with acting (haha she just keeps saying things nobody has ever said before, and so eloquently!) so that probably had something to do with it, but now. Oh now. Now I could not be bothered. It’s wonderful.

But I do see how those people end up on makeover shows. They stop giving a fuck in the ’90s, pick a haircut and just keep getting it forever, keep wearing that Tweety Bird sweatshirt because it’s the most comfortable one they own, and then one day a camera crew shows up at their house and it’s a big shock. If a camera crew shows up at my house in 15 years, all I’m saying is, I called it in 2016. I see where I’m headed and I’m not afraid.


Reasons I don’t want to write this blog post right now:

My hands are sweaty

I should be working on the novel

I should be working on that short story I’m building in my head

The coffee I’m drinking is hot and not iced and it’s too warm today for that noise, this must be remedied immediately

It’s been too long since I’ve updated and if you don’t update your blog with regularity, all of your posts become about how you’re sorry you haven’t written  in so long and that is boring

Reasons I need to write this blog post right now:

Writing in this blog is immediate and gratifying

Writing easy, quick things here gets the ball rolling and makes it easier for me to write “real” things

Billy and Evan are at my in-laws today so that I can write so I better start writing or I’m a hack


Now that that is out of the way. I just had to order groceries from Whole Foods on Instacart and have them delivered to me, which is the privilege-est thing anyone has ever said, if my readership was wider I’m sure it would get reposted somewhere and my character would be disparaged, and perhaps deservedly! The reason I had to do that is because I’m almost 15 weeks pregnant with a human baby and Billy just broke his arm playing soccer. And we just have the one car.

Billy notoriously breaks his arms. It’s because he’s very good at soccer and when he is in good shape and believing in himself he tries hard to win games and he is 34 and his bones are brittle. Maybe he should take a calcium supplement, I don’t know, I’m not a doctor. But this break is not as bad as when he broke his arm one week before our wedding (haha) and he can still do most things, just not lift our child, which is an annoyance but not a real crisis. I’m out of the first trimester so I have a little more energy and I’m a strong person, I can lift my baby. And Evan can walk. We are fine. We just couldn’t make it to the grocery store. And I don’t have to justify anything to you, but I ordered from Whole Foods because the Instacart prices are the same as in-store and I do what I want, okay? Okay, cool.

Anyway, I’m pregnant. Which is wonderful! And I’m feeling pretty good and am determined to have a better time of it than last time, health-wise and attitude-wise. It’s already easier because at this point I don’t give a fuck what I look like and I don’t go out to bars anymore so it’s not really that different from normal, except I can’t run and it’s tiring taking care of my son, but whatever, it’s easier emotionally. Would you guys be interested in me doing the weekly update thing that I did last time? That was kind of fun, so if you liked it leave a comment and I’ll do it again. It will be good motivation for me to continue to “be a writer.”

Also we sold our condo and are moving to a house. We are having some issues with the closing on the house and renovations are shockingly expensive and we still need to pack and move and these things are challenging with toddler, pregnancy, broken arm, but we are so lucky and privileged that I can’t even honestly get that upset about it. My perspective has been adjusted over the past few years. And the world is such a fiery garbage pile that my little slice of white person with software engineer husband just doesn’t even compare, in any way, to the challenges facing many, many people. And I see that now. I wonder if this will make my weekly pregnancy updates very boring? “Things are fine! I am very lucky!” end of blog post. But whatever, this is how I see the world now. I think it’s better this way.

Okay, this was fun! Writing in a blog is fun! Look at me, writing.

Let me know if you want more pregnancy stuff, and I’ll make it happen, goddamnit. Because I care about you. And because I love attention.